Try Something Different Today

 

 

 

I have been trying something different this weekend in my approach to my depression. It all came about when I woke up feeling down on Saturday morning, feeling negative is not a good thing for me as it stresses me out and causes my bowels to play up.

“too much information” I hear you cry! But am I seriously the only person out there with this issue caused by stress? Well I am pretty sure its stress that causes it as blood tests have found nothing wrong!

But I digress, my newest solution was to THINK POSITIVE! sounds simple doesn’t it but negativity plays a big part in depression and is one of the hardest issues to deal with.

Revisit my blog on https://thedepressedmoose.wordpress.com/2012/06/30/the-negative-thinking-challenge/ for more about this issue but what I want you to think about is the POSITIVES.

  • What are your strengths?
  • What are you best features?
  • What have you done to be proud about?
  • What do you offer to people?
  • Describe yourself using 5 POSITIVE ADJECTIVES. Start with the words “I AM” (example I AM BEAUTIFUL)

Just try it even if for a few minutes, finding positive things to say about ourselves is never easy but sometimes you can surprise yourself with what you come up with it may even help you.

It is nice to think of yourself in a positive light for a change I have been focusing on the positives of writing this blog as it has really enabled me to express myself properly, as well as the thought that I am helping people too.

Of course the problem with depression is that the concept of thinking positive is not one we are able to consider. How many times have you complained about having a bad day? compare it to how many times you have said “I’m having a good day!” or on a lesser scale “I’m having a better day”.

It is so much easier to focus on the negatives, whats going wrong in our lives always stands out more but by trying to focus on the good things you have done to fight depression you are showing strength which can be the first step to winning!

Here is a list of my recent positive thoughts that made last week my best week in years………

  • I am a good writer and people LIKE my blog
  • I am not as fat looking as I think I am
  • I am better looking than I think I am
  • I am helping people
  • I am loved

Being positive changed my down feelings at the start of the weekend into a good mood and although this wont work for everyone, it may not even work for me next time. Where is the harm in at least trying it?

The hardest part of the battle will be the “I can’t” feelings but I believe “you can”! so try it for me and see how it goes.

Carrying on from the strange songs in my head there has been a second song now going round my head.  Here are the lyrics from the first couple of verses

You can do anything that you want to do

Put your mind, body and soul to it,

Prove it to yourself and say

I want (I want), I will (I will),

I can do anything.

It’s a difficult world and you have got to prove

That you’re ready and you can do it.

Nothing in this world would stop you,

I know, I can, I will fulfill my dreams.


The tone of the lyrics dont quite  fit with the song genre as you will find here but sometimes you find inspiration in the most unusual places. Here is the video for the song by Livin Joy called Don’t Stop Moving

Until the next time!

Garry “the new mr motivator” :0)

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The Negative Thinking Challenge

One of the downsides to depression is the issue of your negative thinking. The feeling of being a failure and being pessimistic in day-to-day life is hard to shake off and can cause you to have a big set back in your battle. People who do not understand depression seem to think its a simple case of  being able to shake yourself out of it like there is some sort of switch that we flick off and on to suit our needs. Yeah right this morning I woke up and thought to myself “I fancy a down day lets set the switch to down!”

People who do not understand depression or people who never had depression should really just keep quiet and simply listen to those who need to talk. Half the reason we don’t talk to people is because of the “snap out of it” attitude people who don’t know better have. It’s the same as “what do you have to be depressed about?” attitude. Well let me tell me you why I am depressed…. It’s because of people like you who talk when you should listen!! (insert curse words where necessary LOL)

So how do you change the mind-set from negative to positive? Easier said than done isn’t it. Self loathing is a hard habit to break even more so when you have worn a mask for years to hide your true feelings. People always assumed I was in love with myself and arrogant when it couldn’t be further from the truth, I just happen to hide things well and the cocky me was only a facade that those who got to know me saw through in an instance.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_tips.htm has some tips on challange negative thinking – I like this site by the way LOL

Depression self-help tip 2: Challenge negative thinking

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Depression puts a negative spin on everything, including the way you see yourself, the situations you encounter, and your expectations for the future.

But you can’t break out of this pessimistic mind frame by “just thinking positive.” Happy thoughts or wishful thinking won’t cut it. Rather, the trick is to replace negative thoughts with more balanced thoughts.

Ways to challenge negative thinking:

  • Think outside yourself. Ask yourself if you’d say what you’re thinking about yourself to someone else. If not, stop being so hard on yourself. Think about less harsh statements that offer more realistic descriptions.
  • Allow yourself to be less than perfect. Many depressed people are perfectionists, holding themselves to impossibly high standards and then beating themselves up when they fail to meet them. Battle this source of self-imposed stress by challenging your negative ways of thinking
  • Socialize with positive people. Notice how people who always look on the bright side deal with challenges, even minor ones, like not being able to find a parking space. Then consider how you would react in the same situation. Even if you have to pretend, try to adopt their optimism and persistence in the face of difficulty.
  • Keep a “negative thought log.” Whenever you experience a negative thought, jot down the thought and what triggered it in a notebook. Review your log when you’re in a good mood. Consider if the negativity was truly warranted. Ask yourself if there’s another way to view the situation. For example, let’s say your boyfriend was short with you and you automatically assumed that the relationship was in trouble. But maybe he’s just having a bad day.

Types of negative thinking that add to depression

All-or-nothing thinking Looking at things in black-or-white categories, with no middle ground (“If I fall short of perfection, I’m a total failure.”)
Overgeneralization Generalizing from a single negative experience, expecting it to hold true forever (“I can’t do anything right.”)
The mental filter Ignoring positive events and focusing on the negative. Noticing the one thing that went wrong, rather than all the things that went right.
Diminishing the positive Coming up with reasons why positive events don’t count (“She said she had a good time on our date, but I think she was just being nice.”)
Jumping to conclusions Making negative interpretations without actual evidence. You act like a mind reader (“He must think I’m pathetic.”) or a fortune teller (“I’ll be stuck in this dead end job forever.”)
Emotional reasoning Believing that the way you feel reflects reality (“I feel like such a loser. I really am no good!”)
‘Shoulds’ and ‘should-nots’ Holding yourself to a strict list of what you should and shouldn’t do, and beating yourself up if you don’t live up to your rules.
Labeling Labeling yourself based on mistakes and perceived shortcomings (“I’m a failure; an idiot; a loser.”)

Agree with any of these? see yourself and things you say in these? I must admit it certainly touched a nerve with me when looking through the advice and my biggest issue appears to be the “LABELING” although my success at writing this blog is helping to change my views on myself.

Funnily enough one of the things that’s not on there that I suffer from is the “Haves” and “Haves-nots” which is very superficial and materialistic I know but I like having nice things and the latest things, Guilty as charged LOL. Would having things I want cure my depression? Of course not but I wouldn’t mind having an option to find out! (Come on Lottery Ticket! just a few million will do!)

So just for me see what happens when you focus on the good things you can do or can offer to others and see if it improves your negative thinking! whats the worse thing to come out of it?

As for me I am focusing on the good my writing is doing and happy in the knowledge I am helping other people, as the messages of support I have had show me!

Thank you for continuing to support my writing please remember to share it out and spread the word!

Garry