WARNING: THIS POST CONTAINS LOTS OF USE OF THE F WORD!
I genuinely do not like swearing on my blog but hey sometimes nothing works better than an old fashioned F word!
Almost like a bucket list but a lot easier to roll of the tongue, and just as helpful in terms of letting go and moving forward.
People have asked me how I have been able to deal with some of the issues over the past few months and keep going when times have been rough. How I re-evaluated myself and what I want for the here and now, let alone the future.
The problem with depression is that we spend too much time focusing on issues that are outside our control, especially if you are like me and like being able to put some closure to everything.
However the problem is that sometimes closure is not always possible but we do still have to let things go and move on with our lives.
So what can we do to give ourselves closure I hear you ask…
I give you the FUCK IT LIST…
All you need is 2 pens, 1 black or blue and one red, a piece of paper and some quiet time.
Firstly take the black or blue pen in your hand and write down the things that are bothering you, thoughts you are having about issues beyond your control. Make a nice long list of everything that is making you feel down or even indifferent.
When you have finished with everything on the list have a good read of it all.
Take the red pen in your hand and over every thing on the list that is beyond your control and that you cannot change write the words FUCK IT!
Once that has been done, take the list and rip it up into lots of tiny pieces and throw away, burn it, do anything to it that can take out some of your frustrations.
And its done, you have taken back some of the control and given yourself a little bit of closure. Leave it in the past where it belongs and start to focus on the present.
Now obviously this will not work for everyone but it helped me greatly to let go and since then I have been in a much healthier place mentally.
We can only try and if it does not help then you have my permission to look at this post and scream…
Apologies for the swearing but to be perfectly honest the “Gosh Darn It” list just did not have the same ring to it!