But Men dont get depression…

I was asked by the Mental Health Foundation to write something for them as it is “Men’s Health Week” see more on their Facebook page here


It always struck me as strange that woman are so much more open about discussing their mental health illnesses than men are. Often we are more worried about how we are perceived by our friends and family to actually admit that we have an issue. This comes long before we find the strength to seek help and speak about depression with our GP.
The stigma attached to depression often forces men to simply deny they have any issues because we don’t want to be seen as weak, <insert cave man voice here> “ug man strong”.

This was one of my main reasons for wanting to branch into the blogging world and share my experiences with others, men in particular, to dispel the myth of weakness and depression being linked. Going to my GP and breaking down in tears as I explained my problems and feelings to him didn’t scare me half as much as announcing it to friends and family let alone social media but I was determined to show that even though I suffer with depression I have the strength to tackle it head on whilst trying to help others in the process.
There are a lot of men out there still too proud to talk about depression with partner/children but for me I have never tried to hide it from them (once diagnosed of course). It helps to talk about how your struggling because it gets it all off your chest.

One of the things I have come to realise is that the weight of keeping everything inside is a lot more than the weight of people thinking I am weak because I have depression.
I cannot emphasis enough that the best way to deal with depression is to talk about it with loved ones or friends. The more people we have talking about depression will only decrease the stigma we feel about it, and by you speaking out it not only helps you but could help others as well. From my own experience I can tell you that people really appreciate knowing others are talking about mental health because it makes things easier for them.
As for me, I battle daily with my demons but I always have an ear for someone who wants to talk about depression, sometimes that’s all people with depression require….

12 comments on “But Men dont get depression…

  1. There is still, even in this modern age, such a stigma attached to depression. It’s something that one can’t see, like a bandage on one’s hand. I have found that my family and friends simply didn’t understand. One friend said: oh go and bake a cake or work in the garden, that’ll lift your mood. If only that was true. After I had been hospitalised many people thought I’d been to the looney bin! I just kept it between me, my doctor and my psychologist. There was no blogging forum in those days!


  2. It strikes me that, for a man, depression is probably harder to talk about than even something as “taboo” as erectile dysfunction. Yet you see all kinds of commercials for pills and potions for that part of the male anatomy. Men just don’t want to seem soft I guess. Me myself, I’ve always preferred the teddy bears.

    Bravo to you for being so willing to open your life to others and share your struggles so that others need not struggle alone. You’re a brave Moose.


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  4. In my opinion, talking about your depression does not make you weak, in fact I think it makes you very brave and strong! I think you’re doing a great job trying to raise awareness and help others while you’re battling depression yourself. Keep on keeping on! xx


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