Selfish Moose and Terrible Parent Apparently

This was a message I received on Facebook last night from a “friend” of over 3 years right before she deleted me!

“I wish all the best I really do but I can’t sit and watch you talking about getting a tattoo when every few days you’re complaining there’s no food in the house or even your blog how the kids get one gift for Christmas and yet you want to and have booked and $800 tattoo?”

and it continues

“I’m sure you’re helping a great number of people with your blog and kuddos to you for that but if you can put personal pleasure in front of your kids and their holidays I can’t read it any more “

yet more

“Any tattoo before food and gifts are bought for the kids is selfish – cheeky or not . If you have spare money buy food and start your Christmas shopping “

 

here is the best part though – she claims to read this blog yet makes no mention of the fact that I won money playing bingo, the figure of $800 came about talking about my “dream” tattoo that I stated I could not afford because of the cost, that is not anywhere near the price of the tattoo I am getting on Saturday.

This “friend”, or ex friend now,  is someone who has suffered from depression so should be fully aware of the impact receiving this message would have on me so I would like to thank her for making me feel like the worst parent in the world for having the cheek to treat myself.

Why do people think they have the right to make judgement on others? Mr Perfect I am not BUT I would never ever let my kids go without just so I could get something for myself. The fact is Sheryl is getting this as an early birthday present so that we can focus on saving for Christmas but should I have to justify myself and how I spend my money to people?

Fine send me money through the donate button on the right and maybe THEN you can question what I spent it on but to unfriend me because you did not read what was written properly and then have the audacity to judge me is going to far!

Sorry Kim but you can kiss my moose behind! Blocked and forgotten!

Hopefully this rant will help improve my mood because another night has been and gone with me sitting all the way through it and not sleeping and arseholes like the one mentioned above do not help!

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19 comments on “Selfish Moose and Terrible Parent Apparently

  1. Oh, good God. This person needs to focus that judgement inward rather that outward. Wow. I guess you should stop spending your money on therapy and medication, too? Because these are things that help you heal. The tattoo is a symbol to you. Something that will become a permanent part of you that can give you strength when you look at it and remind you where you’re going and why.

    After a long, manic night when I almost ended my life (it took all that I had to hold out until morning), I asked for help. Help involved getting my daughter to a safe place (her and I were staying alone together) and going to the hospital. I left her with her grandmother (my ex’s Mom) and I flew home to my husband in NJ who took me back after all my craziness and saved my LIFE. Well, I still have family who will not speak to me because I “abandoned” her. Abandoned. Oh! And I let my controlling husband “convince” me that I was bipolar. Wow. And some of this judgement came from family of mine who stayed married to a man after he touched me when I was young! Parenting advice from a child molester enabler? No thanks.

    So I know about judgement. And I blocked some numbers and got off all social media. Except this WordPress which is new for me and does not involve anyone I know in real life.

    F that woman. Do what is good for you! Y

  2. Oh, good God. This person needs to focus that judgement inward rather that outward. Wow. I guess you should stop spending your money on therapy and medication, too? Because these are things that help you heal. The tattoo is a symbol to you. Something that will become a permanent part of you that can give you strength when you look at it and remind you where you’re going and why.

    After a long, manic night when I almost ended my life (it took all that I had to hold out until morning), I asked for help. Help involved getting my daughter to a safe place (her and I were staying alone together) and going to the hospital. I left her with her grandmother (my ex’s Mom) and I flew home to my husband in NJ who took me back after all my craziness and saved my LIFE. Well, I still have family who will not speak to me because I “abandoned” her. Abandoned. Oh! And I let my controlling husband “convince” me that I was bipolar. Wow. And some of this judgement came from family of mine who stayed married to a man after he touched me when I was young! Parenting advice from a child molester enabler? No thanks.

    So I know about judgement. And I blocked some numbers and got off all social media. Except this WordPress which is new for me and does not involve anyone I know in real life.

    F that woman. Do what is good for you! Your family wants you HAPPY.

    • Hi Jen

      Thank you for stopping by and commenting. That was incredibly brave to write all that and I am glad you are ok and sought help! There is a great community on wordpress I love how supportive people are on here

      • Ehh. Not brave, just following the examples of honesty without fear of judgement that exists here. You are very, very honest and open. I think that is wonderful. It not only provides ou an outlet, but it provides inspiration for others who may not be inclined to be the one who goes first and puts it all out there.

        This is the same woman who reviewed your book poorly on Amazon, right? She has issues. Oh, and by the way, no reviews show up on the Amazon site over here in the US. I am going to get your book for my kindle today and check it out! I will be your first US reviewer!

      • And sorry about my spelling and double posting. I need to stop commenting from my iPhone and just have some patience until I sit down at a PC!

  3. I saw as much on facebook. I guess this is what happens when you open your life up to people like we do — we come across the odd knob or so who thinks they have a right to judge without getting all the facts. Truth is shes probably guilty of doing the same and is taking it out on you — projection at is best. Ignore the silly cow. Moo! xx

  4. The same thing has happened to me in the past. It’s one of the reasons for my posts about “Why I am fake on Facebook”. Because people are stupid, and feel that if you open yourself up they are allowed to judge you. Also, in my experience, if you are on benefits, and they work, that means they are allowed to tell you off for spending money on other things that are not what they consider “essential”. Can’t tell you the amount of times I had to explain the purchase of my iPad, despite the fact it really helps me when I am up in the middle of the night, and reminds me that other people exist.
    I’ll tell you what social services said to me, “If you put your children first, and neglect yourself completely, you’re not going to be helping them anyway”.
    Live by that. xx

  5. I’m so sorry your “friend” was so (wrongly) judgmental, especially as you said she’s suffered from depression herself – she must know how that kind of thing would affect you!! GRRR this makes me so angry!! It’s not like you are going out and spending loads of money and leaving your kids with nothing! And anyway, it’s nothing to do with her, you shouldn’t have to justify your spending! It seems that she has read only what she wants to read (so she can pass judgment) – the parts about not having enough money for lots of christmas presents, and about the DREAM tattoo (she obviously didn’t read it properly!!) You deserve to treat yourself once in a while, and the moose tattoo obviously means something to you! So sorry this stupid “friend” only sees what she wants to see and has made you feel so bad. You shouldn’t feel selfish or that you are a bad father, because you are NOT! Hugs xx

  6. I don’t know you well at all but what I would say is that you don’t need ignorant people like that in your life. This “friend” is clearly very immature and doesn’t think before passing judgement. Any kind of blogging or public writing does invite judgement and maybe that is for the best, to get honesty from people.

  7. what is it with ppl who think they can judge us for how we handle our illness? And if she suffers from depression, she should understand that we need to occasionally be selfish and treat ourselves! I’m pretty sure you’re not taking food from your family’s table.
    Much love and hugs to you – can’t wait to the moose tatt!! xx

  8. Sad that I saw something wrong before you- gambling and depression go hand and hand good luck with that Garry. I hope you also took in consideration the creating aps for blog /newsletter like I also recommended. But reading the blog I see it’s pretty much the same. Shame you can’t get the help you need. Only stopped by cause some one posted your link.

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