I am happily in the midst of a good spell when things are looking good for me. The two week slump has gone and I am now enjoying three good days in a row.
In the heat of the bad spells though things can, and do get on top of you if you are not careful. The thing is though is that having a bad day or days is normal when it comes to having an illness and it is perfectly fine to suffer them.
It is how we deal with these days that make all the difference.
Look at the example of someone with a broken leg, on some days they will be in less pain than on others and that is how depression works as well.
Unfortunately because depression is an invisible illness we can be sucked in by the good days and feel like we are back on track, it is then that the bad times can follow and often with vengeance. I know from my experience that when I go through spells of feeling like my old self that I end up taking too much on and get complacent. Suddenly I am brought back down to earth with an almighty bump and doom and gloom surrounds me. This is why I tend to post more on my bad days because I need to get it out in the open and off my chest, it makes a massive difference to me once I have clicked the publish button.
I learn more about myself and my depression on the bad days because I can find out about the things that trigger my drop in mood.
What people fail to understand is that it is not as simple as “be positive” when your depressed.
Trying to stay positive is difficult when depression is screaming at you that you’re a failure. It is hard work fighting against the tide of negativity that surrounds you which is why I tend to sleep a lot during the day when depression is winning.
The important thing to remember is that tomorrow is a new day and with it could come the blue skies instead of black clouds so just getting through each bad day is a show of strength from you that should never be underestimated.
It is all to easy to be caught up in the “bad day” emotions of negative thinking and despair but each day you get over is an achievement.
The other bonus of getting through these days is that when the good times come you can appreciate them more, get more things done or actually be a nicer person to be around 😀 well in my case anyway
So if you’re having a bad day try to remember that a day is only 24 hours long and when that day is over it could be the start of a good spell.
Having bad days is normal when you have depression don’t beat yourself up for having them just wait for the next day and be ready to deal with whatever tomorrow throws at you.
I think also that with time, you will more and more learn from your bad days and how to avoid them. Positive thoughts are also something that take time to really get into our way of thinking so that we can still see some positive on the bad days too. I think you are doing a tremendous job at recognizing that the bad days aren’t here to stay! 😉 xx
thank you! i am very lucky to have such good people on here who support me, yourself included! 😀
This is very true! I’m glad you’re having a good day, hope the good days stay for a long time! 😀
at least until Atos ruin my month in 2 weeks lol
I really hope it all goes well with Atos. I know that a lot of people have had bad experiences with them, but hopefully it will turn out fine for you! Good luck! xx
it wont because they have no procedure in place for mental health illnesses but i am not worrying about it until the night before the medical – at least on the outside lol
What a wonderful, helpful, and insightful post. I think I might bookmark this to come back to when depression is biting at my heals. Thank you so much for this.
i just need to make sure i remember to come back to this as well
great message garry thank you.
your very welcome 😀
Good day? Bad day? I think I am stuck in the middle ! Is that a numb day?
it depends the best way to tell is as follows
if there is cake/chocolate available to eat then its a good day
if there is nothing its a bad day
Yes, “tomorrow is a new day”; This too shall pass! Thank you for sharing. =)
thank you I am pleased you liked it! Thanks for dropping by 🙂
Great post, I definitely find that I am blogging more the lower my mood, the more racing my thoughts, or the more anxious I am, so can see what you mean there. All the best
Anxiety and depression suck! Suffer through the bad days, knowing that there are good days ahead and try to shorten the lifespan of the dark days even if only by an hour. Small victories count too 🙂
agreed as always Roly! we forget about the little victories at times
Agreed, great post (I had a rubbish day yesterday!) I’ve always been told you have to appreciate the ‘lows’ to really appreciate the ‘highs’ in life! I hope today is a good day for you 🙂 If it isn’t, it’s only 24 hours after all!
thanks Aggy today so far is good! hope your day is awesome too
its just a case of puting up with the bad days no matter how hard they are we just have to be strong and defo make the most and enjoy your good days
I find I have 3 different types of days. Ones when I am down, ones when I am up and ones when I am completely numb. I used to swing between all 3 but recently it seems to be more between numb and bad, with very few good days.
It’s hard to keep fighting when you’ve been doing that for years already, but what else is there?
Hi David, I seem to be swinging down towards numb days at the moment but your right we have to keep fighting. Thanks for stopping by and commenting
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